Valentine’s Day Resolution for Couples: A Spark for Your Relationship

If you are like most Americans you set out in the new year with a New Year’s Resoltion with the hope and goal of making significant and lasting changes in your personal life.  But what about a resolution for you and your significant other as a couple? Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and is the perfect time to make a relationship resolution.  One that aims at strengthening your bond with your partner and cleaning up any bad habits that have snuck in to your relationship creating some form of disconnection. 

Apathy and Complacency: The Silent Relationship Killers
Over time, apathy and complacency can sneak into relationships, causing partners to drift. The good news? Real change is possible with intention and effort.

Check-In and Reconnect
When was the last time you just sat with your partner and really looked at them? Not rushing, not distracted—just together. Take a moment to remind yourself: this is the person you chose—and continue to choose every day. Life gets busy, but taking time to reconnect can help you remember the spark.

Change the Routine: Shake Things Up!
If you want change, something has to change. Maybe it’s a regular date night, long walks, or simply unplugging. The key isn’t in ticking off tasks, but in creating quality moments. Even 15 minutes a day of authentic connection is more valuable than hours of busy work. Cultivate real moments of love, not just more to-do lists.

We Need Some Help: A Little Support Goes a Long Way
Maybe you’re feeling like your relationship is in such a disconnected and contentious place that you can’t even remember why you chose your partner in the first place. Perhaps the idea of sitting across from them and gazing into their eyes seems more daunting than romantic You might not even remember the last time you laughed together or felt a sense of true friendship. Couples often wait 6 years before getting therapy (Gottman, 2023), but it’s never too late to heal. A qualified couples therapist can help guide you back to a healthy place, and if you’ve tried therapy before, give it another shot. Your relationship deserves it—this new year can bring new hope.

References

Gottman, J. (2023) What predicts divorce: The relationship between marital processes and marital outcomes. Routledge

Kim North, Master’s Level Therapist, has a passion for relational healing and a keen understanding of relationship dynamics. She is an understanding and highly skilled counselor, trained in Level 1 Gottman Couples Counseling and Certified in Prepare and Enrich, an assessment tool aimed at improving relationship satisfaction. She utilizes this expertise to assist couples in identifying their strengths and growth areas, facilitating transformative conversations that can lead to meaningful change in their relationships.

Driven by her profound interest in couple’s therapy, Kim has dedicated her counseling practice to help partners find restoration and healing. Her empathetic approach allows her to connect deeply with her clients, supporting couples as they navigate challenges and rediscover harmony in their relationships.